Moving complete. Wedding over. Honeymoon finished. Blogger absence finito. Leaving things hanging here at Spirited Life was a conscious decision. Life was moving so fast and I needed to take time to soak it all up, get in those last memories and time with friends before everything changed forever. Continue reading “An Update”
I Will Not Spell L-O-V-E Like HATE, a Poem Continue reading “I Will Not Spell L-O-V-E Like HATE”
This post was originally published here.
So often we’re told to read our Bibles, but why? What is it that makes Scripture so important? For some, scripture can be viewed as stuffy and archaic, for others it’s too theoretical and conceptual, and for many of us, it’s a rule book waiting to bash you over the head at the first sign of sin. We need to understand what it is that makes Scripture worthwhile, we need an explanation to it.
Here are 8 reasons what Scripture is and the benefits that are waiting for you. Continue reading “Scripture Is…”
I briefly mentioned in a recent post that singleness is more challenging than marriage. And while marriage and singleness are incomparable, I do hold to this mentality and would like to delve further into it. Please know that in this post I take the stance that every marriage is modeling the ideal. I understand that life doesn’t happen in a vacuum, there are plenty of variables that can disrupt the ideal, but for the sake of argument and the inability to expound on every possible outcome life can throw at us, I will be operating with this mentality. Now, onto the post: Continue reading “Why Singles Have It Harder”
I was scrolling through Instagram and I liked a photo. A good friend had just posted an engagement announcement. I was thrilled. They were great people who would do great things together. Then I scanned the comments, the regular hearts and exclamations of joy– and then I hit a comment that made me cringe. It said, “welcome to the club.” My skin crawled. I had to resist the urge to reply and throw up all over my phone. When did marriage become a club? And if that’s what it is going to be, count me out. Continue reading “Marriage Isn't a Club”
This post was originally published on the Anthem Church blog. You can read it there by clicking here.
Easter has come and gone, and in the wake of our echoing He is risen indeed, wilting white lilies, plastic egg hunts, leftover ham, our Easter bests rumpled on the floor, and our eyes so fixated on the Cross– life presses on. We all woke up for work on Monday, to take care of children, to let out the dog, to get ready for school. Life happened and it’s so easy to move on, leaving Easter in the dust, asking “what now?” and looking to what’s next. But I’ll tell you what’s next: Easter. Continue reading “Easter Days”
I said I would talk about it in my last post. So here it is: A modern elopement sounded so appealing to me– and by modern elopement, I mean more of the concept of a ceremony for just the two of us rather than running off without the blessing of anyone. The intimacy of a small ceremony was utterly appealing, the thought of it being just you, your future spouse, and a minister tucked out somewhere in the woods was beyond tempting. I craved the simplicity of it all– Continue reading “Why We're Having A Wedding “
I guarantee you’ll never hear more unsolicited opinions in your life than when you get engaged. This goes for both men and women. I’ve been engaged for less than 2 weeks and the amount of unwarranted opinionated advice I’ve received is absolutely overwhelming– Continue reading “The Problem With Opinions”
In college, a friend of mine would pray for blinders–you know, blinders, the little eye patches that horses wear to keep their eyes from looking behind or beside them. It’s to help horse from becoming distracted or panicked by what they see anywhere but ahead. Blinders force horses to keep their gaze fixed firmly ahead. There’s nowhere else to look. I always thought praying for blinders was silly. But I’m finding myself praying for them. And maybe you should too.
Lately, I’ve been struggling with comparison, confidence, and competitiveness, as a writer, as a woman, as a follower of Christ. I find my gaze drifting to the left, I find my gaze drifting to the right. I find myself looking over my shoulder. And you know what I see there? Other people. With gifts and talents and bodies and faces and relationship statuses of their own. Some of which I find myself comparing myself to. She’s thinner than I am, prettier than I am, better dressed than I am. Some of which I find myself getting competitive with. Her writing is getting more attention, she’s writing more than me.
Not only is this kind of thinking and comparison and competition distracting, it’s downright depressing, and seriously dangerous. It takes my confidence and drives it into the ground. It makes me dislike what I see in the mirror. Hate what I write on the page, and I begin seeing others as a threat, they become a distraction, and I’m left panicked that my life isn’t as it should be. That something went wrong when God created me.
And worse, it means my eyes are no longer fixed ahead. No longer looking at Jesus. No longer focused on the plan and purpose God has laid out before me. Proverbs 4:25 says to look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you. The writer of Hebrews tells us to strip away the things that will weigh us down in life and keep us from running the race God has set before us. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. It robs you of your contentment. It trips you up in this glorious race of faith that we’re all running.
And worse yet, it’s insulting to God. When we compare ourselves to others, when we put their life side-by-side with our own and we start pointing at all the things that we like better about their life than ours, we’re telling God that we know better. That He, the creator of the Universe, did something wrong when He made you. Talk about a slap to the face. Talk about pride. Talk about selfishness. Talk about coveting. Talk about entitlement. It’s all sin.
If you’re single and find yourself comparing your lack of a significant other to those that are FB official, pray for blinders. When it happens, it will happen in God’s time.
If you’re struggling with how thin or buff you aren’t or how pretty or handsome you don’t think you are compared to so-and-so-apparent-perfect-person, pray for blinders. God knit you in your mother’s womb. He didn’t make a mistake when He created you.
If you’re feeling competitive toward a fellow brother or sister in Christ, pray for blinders. You’re on your own path that God has laid before you. Focus on yourself and your journey.
There is beauty in having blinders. The thing is, we’re all in different stages of life, on different paths, but we all are racing toward the end together. Don’t allow your eyes to wander. It will only make you trip and stumble. We can’t afford to be distracted. When we do it opens a door to the enemy, it sets you back. Pray that your gaze won’t stray from journey ahead. That it will stay laser focused on Jesus.